Friendships in your Twenties.

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I have learned a lot about friendships in my early twenties so far. This isn't going to be the most positive post but this is my opinion, feelings,thoughts and ramblings. You graduate high school and you have your group of friends you think you will forever be best friends with. How untrue that story is. I remained close with very few of my high school friends. We all went off to different colleges, places, and even countries. Some of use graduated, got married, moved out, and some are even having babies. Crazy how in a short amount of years how people change. The change isn't the bad part it's that you don't change together anymore. When you are able to make your own decisions you start to make changes different from each other.  I have a hard time with change. Don't we all?  I want everything the same as it's always been because it's comfortable. At the same time I seek adventure and I'm a curious cat that I love to seek new things out too. My friendships have drastically changed since high school & even more drastically since I got married. I never thought getting married would change some of my friendships with people but it totally does. Even having a wedding changes friendships. I am so happy to never have a wedding again. I loved it & it was beautiful but excuse me it was a pain in the ass at the same time. People get so frustrating during what's supposed to be a very happy time.  Anyways, I would say especially since getting married I have learned a lot about people I thought were my friends. In friendships I have very high expectations of people. I think because I am that type of friend I expect it back. How untrue that is! I'm learning but I look for: Loyalty Trust Honesty Love Joy Communication Common ground Deepness I have a very hard time with shallow people. I really don't understand how people have more than five people they call their "best friends"  It's very hard to really maintain a deep friendship with someone let alone more than five of them. You still have your significant other & family to pour into. I don't understand that. I have experienced great loss of friends in the past year. Mostly due to finding out how different we really are. Also because of some of the qualities I named above. It was really hard but really humbling. I have had a chance to sift through the people who no longer grew me, poured into me and wanted the best for me. Now I have the people who do all that for me and I do all of that for them. It's been very hard and hurtful but I have learned a lot. What friendship really means and how to be an even better friend. I adore the people I am friends with and constantly remind them of how much they mean to me. Blogging and social networking has also been an incredible way to meet new people. I have connected with people via internet that I would have never met otherwise. It's really amazing and I enjoy getting to know these friends better. Your twenties change you and some friends will stick by you forever, some you think will stick by you forever, don't, and you will meet new ones a long the way.  It's okay and I look forward to the people I will meet in my lifetime. I know which ones are stuck with me for life and which ones may only be here for a season. I have learned to let them go, live their life and let them figure out for themselves what friendship is to them. It isn't the same for everyone.  What do you think makes a good friend? How are you a good friend? Have your friendships changed since you moved away, got married, had a baby etc?

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Love Forever, Chel Chel

hello Tuesday!

This post will be a little random with good & bad but it's just some thoughts & experiences lately.

Well first I had an awesome hike this morning with my friend Jordyn! We have been friends since childhood and we have recently reconnected since we are both in the same spot now. There are tons of trails around where we live so we did one today called Mt. Wanda. It's a little over a mile up & then we just make our way down. I think my Nike app said like 2.30 miles or something. 

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Gorgeous right?! Felt so good at the top staring all around at God's beauty.

So Sunday Andrew and i did some shopping as you saw in my previous post. He bought me that new Kate Spade phone case. Well.... let me tell you, don't buy that case. I was holding my phone at work yesterday on the playground and a jr high kid totally pulverized me with a huge ball! (which they aren't supposed to throw them like that anyways) 

My phone fell barely 2 feet and it got so scratched up! I should have taken a picture but I was so bad I didn't. I am surprised for a 30 dollar case it didn't hold up better. Although, honestly like most overpriced material items they never hold up well. It's always my inexpensive items that last me seriously forever.

 I was so upset though because Andrew and I have been really good with money since we got married six months ago so the one time we really can let loose a little and treat ourselves my dumb case gets ruined. Well I went to go take it back because I couldn't believe how horribly this case was made. I just wanted to take it back but I couldn't and I only could exchange so I got a silicone case instead. They actually paid me .27 cents to to get that one. So at the end of the day I can't be that upset and my old manager helped me so it all worked out. However, I am now sticking to my gut & budget from now on and I am not buying unnecessary expensive items. 

Here's my new case:

Still cute but honestly it's not really worth 30 dollars in my opinion. I will stick with the inexpensive one's on amazon! 

Last, my best friend just got back from Canada! 

Isn't she so gorgeous and stylish! She went to visit her family and cousins up there & from her pictures she looked like she had a blast! I hope I can visit one day and she can show me around. 

One day though she texted me a picture of this crazy hat! 

However not so crazy because we both love England. We went there when we were thirteen on a missions trip with our church. ( not missions like the Jehovah witness do. ) We had the time of our lives! We still can't believe our parents let us go & we were the youngest on the trip. We swear when were 30 we're going back so I hope we can make that happen. Maybe the hat will bring us luck!

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Happy Tuesday Everyone! Love Forever, Chel Chel

Friendships with Mentors.

I don't know about you but I have a very special mentor who mentored me for many years. Her name is Andrea and is now one of my dearest friends and I love her very much! 

Jamaica Missions Trip 2010

I wrote a guest post over at my friend Katie's blog Unwritten about friendships with mentors. Go check it out!

Katie and I met in 2008 and I have loved being friends with that girl ever since! So glad she has encouraged me to blog and also helped me!

Bayside Church 2008

Bloom Coffee 2008

Love Forever,

Chel Chel